March 15th, 2010 by
rose
The true etiquette answer has proven very hard to find. Please try to limit your comments to what you think to be proper etiquette:)I don't think you have to call him father. I don't think a priest minds either way."Father" is the man's title...just as Dr. would be of a physician or PHD or Pastor would be to a protestant minister. It would be appropriate etiquette to use the title. It does not mean that he is "your" father."Father" is a title that has been earned much the same way as Doctor, Major or President. Unless you are on a first name basis, etiquette suggests the use of these titles. Just to be clear, I am not a Catholic either.Interesting. Try calling him uncle and see what his response is.No.
If calling a priest father makes you feel uncomfortable then you may call him reverend.
+ Call no man father +
Matthew 23:6-9 reads, "They love places of honor at banquets, seats of honor in synagogues, greetings in marketplaces, and the salutation 'Rabbi.' As for you, do not be called 'Rabbi.' You have but one teacher, and you are all brothers. Call no one on earth your father; you have but one Father in heaven."
Are we also not to call anyone "teacher" or "doctor" which is how "rabbi' would translate? I think not.
This is call for humility for those in leadership roles. Not to be taken literally.
We are not to deny our male parent and cut the Commandment to honor our father and mother in half.
Some leaders in any church may fall into the same folly of a lack of humility as the pharisees of Jesus' day.
The Apostle Paul writes:
I am writing you this not to shame you, but to admonish you as my beloved children. Even if you should have countless guides to Christ, yet you do not have many fathers, for I became your father in Christ Jesus through the gospel. (1 Corinthians 4:14-15)
And:
As you know, we treated each one of you as a father treats his children, exhorting and encouraging you and insisting that you conduct yourselves as worthy of the God who calls you into his kingdom and glory. (1 Thessalonians 2:11-12)
And:
I urge you on behalf of my child Onesimus, whose father I have become in my imprisonment, who was once useless to you but is now useful to (both) you and me. (Philemon 10-11)
And finally, Peter calls himself the "father" of Mark:
The chosen one at Babylon sends you greeting, as does Mark, my son. (1 Peter 5:13)
With love in Christ.yes, its his title. it is put down on the register of citizens as Father too and Sister for a nun.
im not religious. but i have respect for priests and nuns that give people who are hope. i think its only right to use their title.No, you don't (you may, of course). Priests understand that some non-Catholics have issues with that. You may call him by his first name, Mr. Last Name, or just "Sir".You don't have to. You can call a priest "reverend" too.
Of course, you'll end up in hell for eternity, if you do. (Just kidding!)Actually no man should be called "Father" in a religious sense, as Jesus forbid us from doing so, as it puts Man in the place of God.
Matthew 23:8-10
8 But be not ye called Rabbi: for one is your Master, even Christ; and all ye are brethren.
9 And call no man your father upon the earth: for one is your Father, which is in heaven.
10 Neither be ye called masters: for one is your Master, even Christ.
It is ok to call your PHYSICAL father "Father", but to call a priest "Father" violates Jesus' commandment above. It is far more than an "earned title"!
The Pope is called "Holy Father", and yet Jesus used this term only once, in His final prayer before he went to the cross and He used the term in deepest reverence to His Father. Calling the Pope "Holy Father" places him in the same equality with God the Father, which is blasphemy.
Each priest when ordained is called an "alter Christus", "another Christ". Again this places Man in the place of God, putting priests in equality with Jesus.
So, no, do not call any man "Father" in a religious sense. Call him "Sir", or Mr. so-and-so.I agree that the term "Father" is a title, just as is the term "Rabbi" and the term "Pastor". My family is good friends with a Jewish family and we've been invited to dinners that largely consisted of synagogue members, and I always referred to their Rabbi by that term. It just seemed appropriate and polite.you should unless he's introduced himself as something else
that would be like seeing your dr at a social function and calling him Joe instead of dr.I would think Father was apporiate, same as saying Sir to a police officer or Doctor to any Dr."father" would be the proper response, but you could call him anything you want, first name, last name, mr. last name, sparky.Do you call a Doctor, Doctor even though you are not one of his patients?As a non-Catholic, I see the name 'father' simply as a title. As for me, I would address the priest as father Jones, or whatever his name may be.It's a title, just like doctor. Whether you agree with what he does or not, it's what he does. I've known several priests and reverends, and only a couple of them gave me cause to personally not respect them. As long as they don't do something that I disrespect or try to shove their religion down my throat, why shouldn't I address them by their titles?As a follower of Christ, my book of etiquette is the Bible. The Bible instructs Christians to "call no man Father." This title belongs to our Father in Heaven and no one else deserves it. Giving this title to priests is a non biblical Catholic tradition.
I am in a position of serving the local Catholic priests in my restaurant business and I have always called them by their first names. It seems as though it is acceptable to them.
We are all sinners saved by grace - even priests.A priest's official title is Reverend actually. You could use that if it is more comfortable for you than Father.
But as a show of respect, you should use one of those names.I'm never IN social situations with priests. No, I wouldn't call him father, but if you don't know his name, what would you say?I would say yes. Im not jewish and I call rabbis 'rabbi soandso'No you call him Reverend and if he tells you to call him father then you call him a jack ***To show respect YesYou don't HAVE to do anything. I understand it can feel more awkward to call a priest 'father' since 'father' has more than one connotation. If it's truly a social situation, I think it's appropriate to explain to the priest that you're a non-Catholic & unaccustomed to that title, then ask him how he prefers to be addressed. Anyone with a reasonable understanding of others will give acceptable alternatives. If you're not comfortable broaching the subject, I would use 'father' out of respect for the position.I have an idea. Why don't you ask the priest?!
Seriously, he won't be bothered by such a question.It depends on how well you know them. "Father" is a title much like "Doctor" is. If you are in a social setting with a doctor, do you still have to call that person "Doctor Smith?" You may know one doctor really well and call him "Bob," but may hardly know another doctor and address him more formally.
If you are good friends with the person or know them to a certain level, you will probably get used to calling him by his first name and that's acceptable.
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